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Podcast version: HERE
Quote: “Your attitude and your mindset can make all the difference in how your day could be.”
Adding to the quote:
We all have days we are on cloud nine and days we are feeling off. What’s the difference between the two? If we are taking optimal care of ourselves, staying hydrated, eating healthy, sleeping well, guarding our mental and emotional health, what’s the difference between a day that’s a 10 on a 1-10 scale and say a 5? Attitude, right? Attitude is another word for how we think, our mindset, what thoughts and stories we focus on. What we are paying attention to and what’s top of mind.
Ever looked at someone that’s in a good mood every time you see them, and have great charisma and have a magnetic attitude and energy and wonder what’s unique about them? I can make it super duper simple, their thoughts, the stories they cling to and cultivate in their minds! That’s it. I work with a wide variety and range of clients from those that struggle with doing the simple things in life to the high performers and there’s one unique difference between them. How they think.
Submitted Question
“Is having more responsibility in life a good thing? I wish I lived a softer life. I loved it when I had no responsibilities. I am leaving a job with minimal responsibilities for a better opportunity and pay, but it's way more hectic with more responsibilities. Everyone is telling me it's better and that more responsibility in life is better. Besides, I don't really have a choice as I can't afford to live on the pay I currently get. But is it better? Why is more opportunity better? Does it really lead to a more fulfilling life? Is more responsibility a good thing?”
My Response if we were in a coaching setting. Although without being able to ask questions, I may assume or use scenarios to fill in the gaps.
If you make the "wrong" choice what makes it so, or what are you judging to be "right" or "wrong"?
When you're focused on the wrong, you'll look at it through the lens of "what's wrong", and you'll find all the things wrong with the situation. It's a choice for you to look at it from an opportunity stand point or perhaps exciting new challenge (use your own words of course) or to look at it as a bummer or being forced to take on more responsibility and going into it dreading it.
- What version serves you?
- What will create a sense of empowerment?
Many things can make a job feel busy or stressful. One important factor is how we see and understand the tasks and duties of the job. The story we create in our minds about the job can greatly impact how we feel about it.
For example, if we view a certain task as overwhelming or impossible to complete, it can lead to increased stress levels, see how that's all thought created? The task it's self can't inject feelings into you. Additionally, external factors such as workload, deadlines, and workplace dynamics can also play a role in making a job feel more hectic, however again that's thought created. It is a slipper seductive slope to fall for the illusion that the job is injecting feelings into you.
Finding ways to manage stress and maintain a positive outlook can help alleviate some of the pressure and make the job feel more manageable. This builds grit, tenacity and resilience. Ultimately, it is important to recognize that our mindset and attitude towards our work can significantly influence how we experience it.
Carefully select your attitude in every situation.
No one can determine what an opportunity is or means to you but yourself. We all are looking through our own lens of life experiences and yours is unique to you.
What does a fulfilling life mean to you?
How do you manage responsibility?
Some thrive and find greater responsibility as exciting while others crumble, what does more responsibility mean for you?
I am curious if you're looking for happiness. The paradigm of "I will be happy when". If so you will not find what you think you are looking for—happiness, joy, serenity, peace, fulfillment—in externals (a job). Or in any external location at all. You can only find it internally.
I hope this is helpful.
I wish you all the best.
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If you want to send a question, please send to hello@katherine-hood.com please include:
- A coachable question (something that addresses what's in your control, your thoughts, feelings or actions.)
- And context, explain a situation in the past, currently going through, or worries/concerns of the future, giving me some details on your thoughts and feelings about it.