What belief about a problem would you need to change to feel differently about the problem?
What we think and believe about anything, problem or not is where how we feel about it comes from. Get super curious and identify your beliefs surrounding the "problem".
Ideally, having someone like me, someone who is impartial and unbiased, can be incredibly beneficial when it comes to addressing mental conflicts. A third party perspective can often provide insights that friends or family members may not be able to offer. By listening intently to the language surrounding the issue, I can help identify key phases, statement, triggers and patterns that are contributing to the conflict.
Another helpful approach is to engage in free-flow writing, where you express your deepest thoughts and feelings about the problem without any restrictions. By allowing your thoughts to flow freely, you may uncover underlying emotions or beliefs that have been buried or overlooked. Set it aside for a day and taking an objective review of what you have written can provide valuable insights into the root of the issue. Paying closer attention to recurring themes or phrases that emerge in your writing can also shed light on patterns that may be perpetuating the conflict.
The goal is to gain a deeper understanding of the problem and shift the focus to any potential solutions or make peace with what's outside your control. Many things people ruminate on are either due to conflicting internal beliefs or being hyper focused on wanting things to be a certain way and wanting to bend what's not in their control.
By taking a step back and examining language and patterns (beliefs) surrounding the issue, you can begin to untangle the mental conflicts that may be holding you back.
By examining the problem from a different angle and being open to new ideas, you may find that your feelings towards the problem begin to change.
Have you found a belief and shifted it before?
Are you aware of a belief that you're gripped with and can't let go of?