People who rarely receive criticism often take feedback too personally and miss opportunities to learn.
People who rarely receive criticism often struggle to see it as a valuable tool for growth and development.
Feedback isn't personal. Unless we make it that way.
Words from another have no meaning until we make it mean something.
Insecurities and suffering occur when we believe a part of it, even 1% of what is said is true.
Think about it, assuming you do not have purple hair, if you and me were walking down a busy street and never met and I suddenly pass you and point at your hair and said "I hate your F***ing purple hair", would you be hurt, offended, embarrassed, ashamed, or angry? Not likely, you'd think "wow she's nuts". There's not even 2% truth in my statement.
NOTE: Feedback doesn't mean you have to agree, it's being willing and curious to see how what they think and believe could be 2% true.
We funny humans like to make meaning out of neutral things. Who suffers? The meaning making machine.
Many people struggle with receiving feedback because they tend to take it too personally.
A shift in perspective is seeing feedback as a means forward in growth.
Being closed minded and defensive closes us off from increasing our emotional intelligence level. Have you ever met an adult that behaves like a child? People that stay closed minded, stay at the age that began.
By being willing to see the 2% truth in what someone says about you, you can see how the way they think and believe could appear real. No two people think and believe the same thing so why not see if you have a blind spot that needs upleveling?
“To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” – Elbert Hubbard
Embracing feedback as a positive opportunity rather than a threat to you and your value or worthiness.
Individuals willing and eager to improve themselves, let's face it, that's a lifelong journey. They learn from their mistakes, improve communication, understanding, and ultimately thrive in all aspects of their lives.
The people who are closest to us often have a wealth of wisdom to share. These individuals may include family members, friends, and co-workers, who are in a unique position to offer valuable insights and perspectives based on their own experiences and knowledge. While it is natural to sometimes disagree with those closest to us, it is important to recognize that dismissing their perspectives outright can be a sign of close-mindedness, criticism, self-righteousness, and judgment. By remaining open to differing viewpoints and embracing the diversity of opinions that surround us, we can foster a more inclusive and understanding environment in our relationships and interactions.
Coaching is consistent time set aside that revolves around providing and receiving feedback. It involves establishing a trusting partnership where individuals feel comfortable speaking freely and exploring their challenges and dreams. Through this safe dedicated space, individuals are able to uncover any blind spots or limiting beliefs that may be holding them back from reaching their full potential. By me their coach shining a light on these areas of conflict and stagnation, individuals are empowered to make positive changes and create a more fulfilling reality for themselves.
Who can you ask today for feedback and what blind spots might you have that would be honest and not just tell you "you're perfect"?
We are all imperfect and have room for growth.