If you're looking outside of yourself for confidence, you'll lose yourself.
When you rely on external sources for confidence, happiness, or any other feeling, you're not only a rat on a wheel; you run the risk of losing touch with your true self.
It's important to recognize that there is nothing inherently wrong with you – you are whole and complete just as you are. Happiness or other positive feelings cannot be found through external means; it must come from within. Your feelings come from you. We are like a powerplant our energy is created inside of us.
Once you truly grasp this concept on a deep, visceral level, rather than just intellectually agreeing with it, you will begin to see the world in a whole new light.
Embrace your inner strength and self-worth, and you will find the confidence and happiness you seek.
Continue this dialog, what stands out? What questions do you have? Do you have an example of how this might not be true?