To Lower your Stress: Is to take nothing personally.
In today's fast-paced world, where everyone is busy and there's never enough time, stress seems to be the norm rather than the exception. It's essential to take a step back and reevaluate how we approach our relationships. One key aspect to lowering our stress levels is to not take things personally.
Stress: The Oxford dictionary definition of STRESS is a state of mental and emotional strain. There is no cause for stress; it is merely a state of mind. Stress is inside out, not outside in. Seeing and experiencing how we create our reality can completely change your perspective and how resilient you can be.
So many clients are shook when I point out where their feelings come from. We are conditioned to believe they come from an outside in paradigm, for economic reasons. We humans tend to buy things on emotions as a result. The Oxford dictionary definition of stress, points to one of the major things I point to in coaching.. we dictate our feelings, we have that power.
As a coach, I have witnessed countless individuals who struggle with taking things personally and allowing them to impact their emotions(stress). It's human nature to seek validation and understanding from others, but when we put too much emphasis on how others perceive us, we give away our power.
"Here's the light switch to my emotions"
When we shift our focus to how we want to feel, we take control of our emotions and no longer allow others to have power over us. It's about intentionally choosing to live from inside out, fill in the blank for what it is for you:
"I want to feel______"
Now the key is the words have to be strong, powerful, have meaning and energy for you and they must be within your power.
So "I want to feel important to my partner" isn't in your power. Wanting to feel peace, content, love, safe, kind, light, hopeful.. these could be within your power being that you and only you can generate your feelings.
By prioritizing our own emotional well-being and becoming aware of our energy, our agenda, and how we want to feel, we will navigate whatever life throws our way in the way we desire to feel. Only we can create a sense of inner peace, not another person. Believing that someone else has the power to control or influence our day gives them control over our emotions.
In essence, by taking nothing personally, we free ourselves from unnecessary stress and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships with others. So the next time you feel yourself getting caught up in the drama or negativity of someone else's actions, remember to prioritize your own well-being and choose to respond from a place of peace and love.
Love to hear your thoughts, feedback, insights, or any resistance... all is welcome