If the Cost is your Peace of Mind, it's too expensive.
If what you are doing or saying yes to is costing you your Peace of Mind, then it's simply too expensive.
Life is incredibly short and precious, so it's important to prioritize your own needs and well-being first and foremost.
Before your "mind" jumps in and adds its two cents and convinces you that this is a selfish concept, let me remind you that by showing up to the people that you deeply care about, giving them your scraps and leftovers exhausted, grumpy, and depleted, you are not truly showing up for them in the way they deserve.
This often leads to surface-level relationships, where you're spread so thin you're not developing deep, rich connections because your bandwidth is so used up. Taking care of yourself and prioritizing your own well-being allows you to show up as your best self for those you care about. It's not selfish, it's actually better for everyone.
Neglecting your mental, emotional, and physical health is not worth the price you may pay in the long run. The cost of sacrificing your well-being is simply too high, and the consequences may be irreversible.
We run around putting out fires and solving everyone's problems. When your health is at risk, there's now only one problem: consider what led up to that. When we empower people to take care of their own problems, they and you benefit. Overperforming in any relationship handicaps the recipient and creates a co-dependency on you that truthfully is harmful for both parties.
Remember, you can't put a price on your health and happiness. It's crucial to take care of yourself, put the things that benefit your mental, emotional and physical health first in your daily calendar, and let the rest of life fill in the excess areas.
What's something you're going to say no to, and what's going to take the place of that old obligation?